Rough sex is something that both guys and gals enjoy. The world of BDSM has gotten more mainstream after movies like Fifty Shades of Grey. Roughing it up in the bedroom can be quite enjoyable. However, it can be very painful as well. Hopefully, after reading this, you’ll be able to avoid as much of the pain as possible. A beginner should never do anything that’s too extreme. Pushing the limits is one thing, dishing out harsh punishment is a whole different ballgame.
The first thing you’re going to want to do is set up a safe word. This may sound a bit overboard to someone who is a rookie at this. You have no idea what you’re in for. There may be situations when you just want it all to stop. Those situations require a word that your partner will immediately recognize. Telling them to stop simply isn’t enough. Sometimes the pain itself can make you say that. Then, somehow magical the pain turns into pleasure. For those times when this doesn’t happen, a safe word is a must.
Choose your safe word wisely. Make it something that you normally don’t say during sex. “Pepperoni” is a great safe word. It has to be something that your partner immediately recognizes as being foreign. “Ouch” isn’t foreign during rough sex. Don’t use words that are obvious. You’re only setting yourself for a painful and possibly dangerous outcome if you do.
Don’t expect to be a master at this right away. You’re going to have to take it slow. You can start with light spanking or whipping. Fur-lined handcuffs and a soft rope is a great way to begin your binding journey. You should always remember in the back of your mind that you’re new to this. Don’t think you’re ready to hogtie your partner right away. That’s way down the line from now. Simply tying their hands to the bedposts with some soft rope is a great way to get all of this started.
Every person has things that are off limits. Some may not be into anything involving the asshole whatsoever. If this is the case, don’t cross those lines. Talk about what limits you have before starting all this. You don’t want to be tied up and find yourself in the middle of hard anal sex, not if that’s one of those things you simply can’t stand. Going beyond your limits will make it so you don’t want to have rough sex anymore. The groundwork needs to be laid down for this long before you start having rough sex.
Make sure that this is something with which you are both comfortable. If it isn’t, one of you is going to have a terrible experience. This can easily spell disaster for the relationship. No one wants to be forced into something they feel uncomfortable with. Experimenting often leads to awkward moments and that in itself isn’t a bad thing – everyone is inexperienced at some things in the bedroom. It’s when those awkward moments lead to you not wanting to have sex that it can create more significant problems down the line.