Polyamory is something you’ve been thinking a lot about lately. If this describes you, then you’re probably a guy. You want to fuck more than one woman. There’s no need to sugar-coat this in the slightest. Now you want to see if your woman will tolerate it. There’s something special going on between the two of you and cheating is out of the question. Just the thought of it alone makes you feel queasy. Here we’ll give you some tips to break the news and hopefully get the response you’re looking for.
Be blunt about it.
You don’t want to beat around the bush. Don’t send mix signals. Come right out and say that you want an additional partner. They may be very surprised at first. Don’t be caught off guard if they start laughing. Your partner may not be taking you serious at all. This sort of thing can seem very bizarre. It’s not normal at all. Even though many couples actually do have polyamorous relationships. It’s just called cheating and one or both people aren’t willing to admit it. But, that’s what it is in the end.
Don’t expect your partner to be on board right away.
This is especially true if you’re a woman seeking a polyamorous relationship. He very well could be into it if you’re wanting to bring another chick in the house. Every guy hopes to have a threesome with his old lady and another woman. If you’re wanting to bring another guy into the mix, well, that’s going to be painful. Who knows though. He might be up for it. Knowing how someone will react to news like this is impossible to predict.
Anger and jealousy may follow your questions.
Immediately your partner may accuse you of cheating. Even if they don’t, it very well could be in the back of their mind. It’s going to take them awhile to process all of this. What does it mean that you want someone else in the relationship? They may even feel like you’re trying to get rid of them. Reassure them that’s not the case at all. You’re just trying to add a little excitement in your life with the addition of someone else.
No means no.
What do you do if your partner says no? You leave it at that. You don’t go out and cheat on them. Secrets are never ever good for a relationship. You just have to accept that your partner isn’t down for this sort of thing. It shouldn’t be too surprising in the end. You know your partner better than anyone else in the world. Don’t beg or try to manipulate them for the answer you want. Just close this chapter of your life and go on with the next.
The real question is why do you want a polyamorous relationship? Are you unhappy sexually or not having your emotional needs met? If this is the case, the answer more than likely isn’t to add another person into the mix. That’s only going to complicate things in the long run. What you should do instead is work out your problems. Those problems will only become worse over time if you don’t. Relationships require work no matter if there’s two people involved or five.