How often should the average couple have sex? Oddly enough, there’s no real answer to that question. Most men reading this will think they probably don’t have enough sex. The average couple has sex somewhere between once a week and once a month. Yes, the average couple really has that little sex. If you’re getting action a few times a week, then you are definitely in the minority. Those who are fortunate enough to get laid every day should thank their lucky stars. You truly are the most fortunate people out there.
Most of the times a perceived lack of sex is just that. There can be many factors in why you’re not having as much sex as desired. Having kids is probably the biggest one. It can be very difficult to make time for sex. Time isn’t the only factor involved when you’re a parent. Energy or lack of it is always a concern as well. It’s easy to feel absolutely drained by the end of the day if you’re a parent taking care of children.
Your marriage isn’t in danger if you’re having sex at least a few times per month. Sure, you can step it up and aim for once a week. Beyond that, it’s really a crap shoot. Getting laid more than once a week consistently is a very difficult thing to do. It may sound easy if you haven’t been married for a long time. Singles will laugh at the idea that having sex more than once a week is difficult. It is. It’s extremely difficult and soon one of these days you’ll wake up to that reality.
Sex is an important part of a marriage. It’s not just about pleasure. It reinforces the bond that you share with your partner. This may actually be the most important aspect of sex. It may not sound so important to all the guys out there. But, it truly is. The health of the bond that solidifies your relationship is extremely important. It will dictate the type of relationship you have for the rest of your marriage.
When you first got married sex was a very spontaneous thing. It just happened out of the blue. Those days are long gone. If you want to have sex frequently, then you’re going to have to plan for it. You will actually have to plan your day around having sex. Those who have a busy lifestyle can fully understand why this is. You probably already sneak in some time to hang out on Facebook or whatever. You’re going to have to do the same thing when it comes to sex.
What you perceive as a lack of sex may not actually be that. It’s possible that you’re having more sex than all of your friends. Most people aren’t going to come right out and say they only get laid once a month at most. If you’re having frequent sex and it’s not enough, then you’re going to have to masturbate. There’s nothing wrong with being married and masturbating. You have sexual needs that need to be taken care of. Your partner won’t always be there to take care of them. That’s why sex toys were invented and you should learn how to use them. This advice is for both the men and women out there. If you’re not getting enough action, take care of it yourself. That’s the bottom line.