For men, lasting longer in the bedroom can be a matter of pride. It can also be a matter of pleasure and satisfaction for you. While there is a sense of power we feel when our partner suddenly comes because of the sensation of our bodies, there is also a sense of frustration. Often that unexpected orgasm comes just as pleasure is starting to ramp up.
Fortunately, there are some easy ways to help him last longer in the bedroom and help maximize your pleasure together.
Come before Intercourse
Give your partner at least one orgasm during foreplay. It can be from oral or via a hand job, whichever the two of you prefer. Letting him orgasm before you engage in intercourse will help because he has to build up to full arousal again and his body has to refresh to support another orgasm. The combination means that he will take longer to come again.
Try New Positions
Sexual positions do not just affect how much you enjoy sex. They affect how he enjoys it as well. The tightness of your body and even how his shaft brushes along different parts of you will affect what he feels and how long he can last. If your partner comes too quickly from one position, try others and then move into the position that excites him when you are both ready for him to come.
Sometimes, a man is just very sensitive and no position or number of orgasms will fix it. In fact, for these men, multiple orgasms can make it worse, leaving him more sensitive. For these men, condoms may actually help. Because condoms limit the stimulation he will feel from stroking, they can help him last longer during intercourse. They also make cleanup easier afterward. Just remember to use plenty of lubrication.
You can also alter pacing during sex. Start slow and easy, so that you can build up sensation without building up his pressure and need to orgasm. Gradually increase speed. When he gets close to orgasm, slow down and give his body a chance to come back down. It takes time to master this kind of pacing, but with practice, he will be able to stimulate you and slow down as you orgasm, helping him to last through it. When the two of you are ready for him to come, it will be a more intense orgasm for him because of the edging.